The Ups, Downs and in Betweens

THIS SUNDAY'S BET AWARDS... THE PRESSURE WAS ON! BET really needed to step up their game and do Michael Jackson proud! This is the first award show that is taking place just days after his death... we are all STILL in a state of shock! This is the BLACK ENTERTAINMENT TELEVISION AWARDS... I HOPED they would understand how significant and important it is that they blow the roof off that joint... and show the world, just what he meant to the black community, to every single genre of the entire music industry, and to this world in its entirety! WE need this..... HE deserves this! Michael Jackson DESERVES way more than just a damn moment of silence...... I was extremely insulted, completely embarrassed, and thoroughly PISSED, THE ENTIRE SHOW SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABOUT MICHAEL JACKSON. PERIOD. I love my girl, but to hell, why would I want to watch Beyonce' ass stand on stage belting out something that only pertains to her ass.....glad she wasn't gyrating across the stage for the ump...

My family will tell you, when I was younger I used to get all of my mother’s belts, you know those 70’s belts that had mad hoops, rings, or big gold emblems, and wear them atop my all black outfit. Oh YES…I was Michael Jackson. I knew all the dances, especially from his feature film, “Moonwalker” with Joe Pesci.—but wow I digress...let us take a moment and remember how serious Mike was: 1. This man had people, BOTH MEN AND WOMEN, FAINTING in a crowd of thousands. Like the ambulance had to drive through the crowd during the middle of the concert to get people out!!! 2. He is third on the list of all-time worldwide fame, second to Obama , and third to Jesus. 3. He has as many albums sold as their are people in the United States—”its science” Michael Joseph Jackson (born August 29, 1958) is an American recording artist, entertainer, and businessman. T he seventh child of the Jackson family, he debuted on the professional music scene at the age of 11 as a member of The Jackson 5 a...

Today is a very special day.....Our little princess turns 3 today and for the most of you that knows us personal....Megan Summer McSween has gone through a tremendous amount of surgeries in her very young life. The picture above...took me just until last month to embrace....she was only a few hours old....I always tear up on her birthday.....but they are tears of joy. So this is to Say Happy Birthday Megan Summer...We Love you.....

I had a wonderful conversation today, one which revealed itself to me as the words fell from my mouth into the ears of a friend. Love is a world within itself, one of the few things about Living that is greater than Life itself and in order to love/be in love there have to be rules, boundaries, edges and lines. A symmetry of living in which every angle of emotion has to be regulated. If not. A lawless society forms around one's heart in which prospective partners, lovers, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends are free to roam. As they roam they cause destruction and upheaval and when they are done, they do what everyone does once they have created an irrevocable mess - they leave. I have grown to understand that there are two ways to love - the right way and the wrong way and the wrong way is to do so lawlessly. To go with the flow. Run with the tide. Those things tend to lead to Brokenness in my experience. A shattering which at best lasts a few days and at worst, claims lives. Love d...

They say that they admire you for your strength and then they steal it, chew it into incoherence and leave you with space. They say they miss you but then they create distances. Long. Distances. Any distance is a long distance if you are attached to the person behind it. They say all the things you need to hear to make you feel in close proximity to them but they do not call them Sweet Nothings for Nothing. They demean your weakness when that is all you have. To speak of. To hold on to. To call out to. Your anger. The Fear. The frustration. These are all there long after they have been, wallowed a while and gone. They say they love you and they really do but Time has its own attachments, it does not need the added appendage that is L.O.V.E They say they will fix it, but ... ....

My opinion of an ex... a person who you no longer date! Someone who had 'status' in your life but no longer holds that position... for some people they can't stand their ex and for others their ex is their best friend! As for me... I have no issues with any of my exes..... Have you ever...felt like if you never met someone your life would be so much better? wished you took the time to get to know that person properly? There's so much to cover in this subject... what about the types of exes?! The type of ex you have determines the way you relate to them! If your ex is crazy... you're most likely going to talk to them with no respect and are most likely to have arguments with this ex! If your ex is pleasant and carries on with their own life then I guess you would do the same... so the greetings could be a quick 'hi' and 'bye'... What about the way a relationship ends?! Does that affect the way you relate to an ex?! Hmm I think it has some importanc...

I was watching Gotti's Way last night and my heart bleeds for Deb. Not because she is the " woe-is-me " wife, but because she just doesn't know any fucking better. Deb, you guys have been SEPARATED for SEVEN YEARS, when did you think this mufucka was about to turn around?! And ANOTHER thing I would like to know is, did she see the last season tapes? She must not have when Irv said, "she's not that special for me to stop fucking" there was your neon sign right there Deb. And i know, i know, the good for the kids, but mama's gotta have a life too. And I know, when ur married you make those vows before God and you have to try to do everything in your power to make it work, but when one side of the fence is only holding up, and the other side isn't willing, time to knock that fucking fence down. Tell, me , if you were in Deb's position, what would YOU do?? How long would you stick around?

We're not. Some of us are, but not all, especially not myself. We know about this stereotype that black women are fat, angry and darn loud...are you? Maybe you are, maybe you aren't, but why are we all tarnished with the same image? Being a black person can be hard for many reasons, but the one that I'll focus on today is whenever one black person does something we all go down with him/her. For example, an overweight, black woman/man might squeeze themselves into the ugliest outfit on earth and strut off down the street. I bet there'll always be someone who says something like, "She's an embarrassment to black community." But why? Why can't she just shame herself, and maybe even her family and friends? Then there's gun and knife crime, that's getting worse and worse. A black teenage boy somewhere goes around carrying a knife, so then every black teenager is suddenly a suspect? To make matters worse, we seem to be the only race who's 'l...

Just the other day I was sitting in my living room watching Sex & The City and Sarah Jessica Parker who plays the role of "Carrie Bradshaw" mentioned something in which she referred to as spirits of relationships past . What she said was actually true and made a whole lot of sense. When you have unresolved issues with an ex you always tend to see them, and it's not like you want to but no matter what you do or where you go they always seem to pop up. Once those issues are resolved you never see them anymore. It's as if that one person and issue you want so hard to forget is constantly there and will never go away. That's why WE (I mean you) need to confront those issues...deal with it and get the hell over it. It's just one less thing you have to worry about ,because Lord knows we all go through it at some point in time. So stop avoiding the situation and get rid of those spirits before they haunt you for the rest of your life. No one is trying to end u...

See the thing I like about this couple is they are a power couple!! He is a strong, independent, go-getter, motivated man and she is a get-what-i-wan t , I’m-not-playin-wit-you, hard-working woman! Together this equals a power couple…… and you know what people…. the only way you can move up in this world and keep climbing that ladder, is to be with someone who is ready to help you to that next step and work with you to knock down the next barrier! Here’s my point, when your looking for someone to spend your life with, you need to see if they have the same goals you have…… no scratch that they need to have higher goals than yours!!! That way you know that the sky is the limit ! It may be hard to understand or sound like I’m not making any real point when i put it this way…. but let me put it in negative terms: If your with a guy that doesn’t want to get his ass up and strive for more…… if he’s content in that house, driving that car, having that job forever …… while you are...

I can't speak for everyone, but from personal experience. Relationships get boring because people get comfortable in their roles and unwilling to do things outside of that. The things that you did to get the person you are with are abandoned and replaced with the same thing day in and day out. So if you don't want your relationship to get old, you need to be working to keep it fresh. Bring her flowers, make your man a candlelight dinner, have a date night......whatever it takes to make you look forward to spending time with a person again. Now for love. I don't believe love gets boring.....I do believe it changes. When you start a relationship you wanna be up under that person all the time...when it moves to love that wanting to be with them intensifies. But at some point in just kinda evens out. Perhaps that's what you mean by it gets boring? I didn't ask for clarity, so you will have to provide it. But for me (perhaps for you too) there are different levels of ...

· I got my own car. · I got my own house. · I got my own account/ money. · I got my own credit. · I got my own job. · I got my own friends. · I got my own life. · I got my own priorities. Now tell me if I got all of that why wouldn’t I want my own man? I don’t care how much better women think it is being the other woman. Karma’s a motherflucker and I live by it. If I can’t work things out, Cheating should never be an option. Why do we resort to being the other woman? Why do we let men have there cake and eat it to? Have all women given up hopes on finding there own so they settle just to have somebody. I can’t— will not— wont be—it’s no way in this lifetime I’ll be on the other end of the fence (not willingly). Now I’ve been cheated on and have stayed to try to work things out, so I guess I was in the wrong to. I ask myself is the woman who stays with a cheating man wrong? Or the woman who lays down with a man knowing he’s in a relationship and you just don’t care wrong? I do...

Seems like we have been having more rainy days than usual.....I would like to think of it as a metaphor of our financial situation....stocks are going up and down, unemployment is at 10%, small business are closing....so the earth is shedding its tears along with us..... I've always believed rainy days are God's way of telling the world to slow down for a few moments. I'm not including rainstorms that create natural disasters in this description. Everything is what it is, but it has to go just a little slower in order to happen. If you have a moment, take one to really enjoy that morning coffee or the scene outside your window as you drive or train it to work. Instead of being pissed that it's cold and rainy, realize that all the pollen that had your car covered with green dust is now making its way down a sewer drain. If a meeting gets canceled or delayed take the time to catch up on something that has been sitting on your desk for entirely too long. There's plenty...

Growing up I have heard this saying "fool me once, shame on you...fool me twice shame on me" Now, I am a very forgiven person, but my problem is I can never forget when a person has crossed me (boy can I ever hold a grudge). It's even harder for me when I let a person into my circle...so for you to then violate my trust and friendship its gonna be hell to pay....If I do decided to give you a second chance, you should feel privileged....that might sound cocky to some but this is my feelings that I am talking about, I am the one that has to feel the hurt and pain, if you decide to be a donkey again. I know that people and things change, people are to mature and learn from there past habits, but you must understand when certain situations come up and I react a certain way........That's because old habits die hard * Sometimes you put walls up NOT to keep people out....but to see who cares enough to break them down....* You have to work extra hard to regain my trust...

I recently posted this as my FB status......this is one of the many quotes that was part of a paper that I wrote in college....we had to choose an emotion and I choose "Love" to me its the one thing we all need...it can be from parent to child, suppose or significant other and friendship. *it is impossible to fall out of love. Love is such a powerful emotion, that once it envelops you it does not depart. True love is eternal. If you think that you were once in love, but fell out of it, then it wasn't love you were in. There are no 'exit' signs in love, there is only an 'on' ramp. * Love is a very complex thing....some times you have to be the giver of 100% and at times just the taker. but when u realize that your only given and not getting anything back, but hurt, lies and other drama, then you are not in a loving relationship......its not TRUE LOVE , the key word in this quote is TRUE LOVE ....not many of us will every get to experience the joy/pleasure o...

In all seriousness, how do you know..... Here’s the answer........ EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called "falling" in love - because it’s happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, ...

How many of you know this person......no matter what it is ur talking about, they did it, gonna do it or was thinking about it.... and they have a long as story about it * rapping* - I know, I know, yep yeah, you too Okay we get it, yep yeah you too I know, I know, yep yeah, you too Okay everybody meet Mr. Me Too You can't have a conversation with this person, with out you wondering if they are serious.... I have a person whose a "Mister Me Too" bugs the hell outta me, when this person starts to tell these crazy ass stories about shit he never did or is gonna do...... (have me given them the evil side eye) because I knew you for years and you have never been there and you don't even have the means of getting there, but you sure got the best stories to tell. but I guess that's persons way of feeling important around others .....instead of just being themselves...if they can't accept you as you are, they sure aint gonna accept you as the Mister Me Too

My first blog, very important to me.....this is where I am suppose to tell you all about me and why I choose to blog and what I expect to get outta of it.... but I feel that most of you reading this already know me and those who don't you will after reading a couple more of my blogs(yea, I want yall to come back).