The Ups, Downs and in Betweens

Everyone out here is so focused on "protecting their peace."   But what if I told you that peace isn’t where the real growth happens? You’re not growing by avoiding challenges or sheltering yourself from discomfort. Growth happens when you allow yourself to face the fire, to walk through it, and confront the things that trigger you. Because let’s be real—every time life shakes you, and you find yourself overwhelmed or “ losing control,” it’s not because you’re weak or broken. It’s because you haven’t healed the source. And honestly? That’s okay. I don’t even believe in the idea of being fully “healed.” I think that word puts too much pressure on us, like there’s some magical finish line where all your pain vanishes. For so many of us, healing isn’t an end—it’s a process. It’s about learning how to carry what happened to you without letting it break you down. It’s about understanding your pain, coming to terms with it, and finding a way to live with it. Trauma doesn’t just di...

“I’ve lost the use of my heart, but I’m still alive” – Sade It’s been ten years since Sade’s last release and she’s back like she’s never left. The music video for “Soldier of Love” was suppose to premiere on Amazon at Midnight but it somehow got leaked online last night. ..Her new album “Soldier of Love” hits stores February 8th

Too Guilty To Leave: Are You Delaying A Breakup Out Of Guilt? by Natilee T. McSween Most breakups aren’t mutual. Many of us are familiar with the sense of rejection and loss when a partner chooses to leave. You might also be familiar with the difficulty of being the one to initiate the breakup. Sometimes ending a relationship can be so hard that we put it off for days, weeks, and even years . Many people get stuck in this stage, and one major reason for this is an overwhelming sense of guilt. Relationships end. They end all the time and for all sorts of reasons. Despite our best intentions, sometimes people just aren’t compatible, or they have different life paths. In fact, most people don’t find “the one” until after a series of “failed” relationships. Ending a relationship doesn’t make you a bad person, even if you fear that y...

Someone said to me a very long time ago: “Nat, there is no sadder thing in the world than a missed opportunity. When I look back on my life, the only things I regret are the things I haven’t done, never the things I’ve done”. What is a missed opportunity? A missed opportunity is a chance you have not taken because of fear. It’s most often fear that is holding us back from progressing. Now, you can apply this to anything in your life, from the business you want to build to the cheap car you didn’t buy last weekend. But the missed opportunity I am referring to, is not living the life you want to. For example, when you met someone who could have a great impact on your life, and you didn’t take the chance because fear was holding you back. What is the point? The point is that we all have something in our past where we have made the wrong decision out of fear. We wonder how our lives would be today if we had only taken action and made the right choice back then. Well, we can’t go back...

I’m not good at this game called Love. Someone once told me I’m not supposed to be good at it— I’m just supposed to take care of it when I find it or if it finds me. But every time I tried to take care of it, It didn’t take care of me. I’m not good at this game called Love. I’ve trained for years. Had a few different teammates. Revised my playbook. Yet, somehow, I’m still no good at this game. And the closest I came to winning, I realized I was running plays with a teammate Who was passing the ball to every other team in the league. 😉 I left my last team. I walked away, filed the paperwork, Hung up my old jersey for good. Sometimes leaving is the hardest move you’ll ever make. And even though my heart is healing, It still feels like I’m stuck on the sideline. But the game goes on. I built this wall around me, Told myself it was for protection, But after my divorce, I was always looking for the quickest exit— Just waiting for the moment to leave. My therapist recently chuckled and said...