The Ups, Downs and in Betweens

Had the pleasure on Sunday to be a part of a group to discuss “LOVE” . When my friend Billy asked me to come on out, I was more than happy to attend…because it’s a group discussing LOVE.  I couldn’t miss this for anything. One thing I enjoy is hearing folks talk about their journey in Love or finding Love. I love that this group it was a mixture of like minded, Successful African Americans all Looking, Seeking or Maintaining Love…but not just any kind of Love But Black LOVE …now we all know that BLACK LOVE seems so unattainable…it's like a Myth, Unicorn or Needle in the Hay-Stack . A few key points I got from the group was that you can find Love again, as learned from a couple who both were divorced and found Love with each other and raising their blended family and co-parenting. They spoke on the ups and downs and in between of doing this…and it all boils down to respecting everyone involved.  You had a couple who met online (the new way of meeting your partn...

The title of this entry is from my all time favorite movie Dirty Dancing . I can relate to the main character " Baby " she is usual overlooked by her family/friends but is the one that saves or figure things out. The one they can lean on or reach out to " Get Shit Done" ! Here's the kicker with Patient/Understanding people, we have FEELINGS ! but we are just more patient than others. But we have the mindset that Patience is a Virtue ... but what does that mean? It's a great thing to have patience but eventually, that patient person gets taken for granted. People tend to overlook a person that they know will be "ok" (I put it in quotes, because everyone is ok in the end, but that doesn't mean they are not hurt or hurting by actions) but because people know you are patient and understanding they tend to overlook the things they would not dare do to someone else that would "WILD-OUT" if they would do that to that person. Patient...

It’s the day after Valentine's day…the Day that is set aside for Love and Affirmation. Today many are left wondering what can I do better to find this Love that I am seeking, Why does it seem to escape me?? We doubt ourselves, our worth and wonder why its not happening for me. We have plenty of ifs and buts… Love is one of the most beautiful things on this planet but it’s also one of the most dangerous things… People Kill, Lie and Scheme for Love and in our day and age create fake profile pages to stalk you and your new lover on social media. I have heard of Santeria, Voodoo and Obeah rituals to Keep Love , very scary if you ask me and rather intriguing (there are books written on this just Google it) I’m not gonna lie... I asked a bunch of questions when this topic recently came up because I am intrigued by Love (you should realize this by reading my blog) and the reasons why people choose who they want to Love. Because Love is a choice, is it not? Do you not choose who yo...

It seems to be a complete mystery. Something we cannot understand. And yet it happens every day all around us: People who used to love each other madly suddenly fall out of love, just like that. Story A Kim and her boyfriend had been the perfect couple. It was as if they had waited for each other their whole lives. They had the same hobbies, the liked the same things, they considered each other to be soulmates. This went on happily for two years – the perfect relationship, until her boyfriend suddenly started to pull back, to act strange and get distant. Eventually he broke up with her, and when she asked for the reason he simply replied that he didn’t love her any more . Sound familiar? Has this also happened to you or someone around you? Isn’t true love meant to be forever? Well, I cannot give you an answer to this one, but I can give you the advice that you need to examine your perception of “true love”. I can tell you: All that glistens is not gold. A high expectation of tr...

Let me just say right off that I think social networking sites are fantastic. It gives us a quick way to keep up with our friends, brag about our dogs, promote our businesses or websites, send impromptu invitations for drinks, and waste valuable hours we can never get back playing games no one else wants to hear about. Sadly, with every great technology stride forward, there comes the inevitable social backslide.This disturbing practice is, for lack of a better way to put it, “Facebook fighting.” People play out their barely suppressed immaturity by posting statuses and/or snarky comments – supposedly employing “code” or innuendo - to insult, anger, or admonish someone else within the network. Wow... First, these folks must think mighty highly of themselves to believe something like that will even be seen, let alone read by the intended party. But for the sake of argument, let’s just say it is. Then what? What, exactly, is the point? What is the expected course of...

I grew up in a house build on Love…My dad romances my mother in ways you only see on TV, but on Valentines Day... my dad goes the extra mile (keep in mind my mother's Birthday is 2 days after Valentine's day). Somehow this seems to be far from the norm for myself and some of my female friends and the wackiness we have dated. Growing up I always had a disdain for Valentines Day…which is odd, because I am the biggest believer in Romance and Love you will every find in our day and age. I think my disdain for the day was because I never truly had a Valentine before. I had a boyfriend or was dating someone on or around  Valentine's day but that wow factor (except for Last Year...but back to why I am iffy on this here Valentines Day...Day).  I still remember this guy, I was dating, I mean we would meet in the library and do homework; well I did homework he just goofed off…anyways back to my story, I was holding my friends balloons she got for her mother and dude s...