The Ups, Downs and in Betweens

Ok today is a very sad day for me...I have lost My first love.. ...My Love has been in my life from since I was in JHS.... we dabbled a bit in elementary, but my parents were not happy and would do some heavy blocking. But once I hit JHS, My Love and I would reunite and it felt so good. My love has been there through my ups, downs and in betweens (lol the title of this blog)...My Love helped me through my chunky days and trust me that was a good chunk of my childhood. My Love also helped me again through my stressful times at work, comforted me on those "female" days. There wouldn't be a time that my Love wouldn't be there to comfort me....sigh...how will I go on now that we are no longer compatible. I tried to deny that we were drifting apart, folks always said that you were bad for, that you didn't mean any good to my health, but you always know just how to make me so happy. I tried on my occasions to let you go, and I would break out in sweets, wouldn't ...

R.I.P to Teddy P.....this man helped to make a lot of babies, inspired so many...you will truly be missed, these are just a few of his great/awesome and amazing songs "Great love song to help get you through....lyrics speaks for it's self"... " Love and Happiness....nothing wrong with being in love with someone, Love can make you do right and Love can make you do right".... "Do I really have to break this one down..lol... Just turn off the lights :)" " very smoothly said...he needs your company.. Come on and go with me, come on to my place....he was very smooth in talking her over to his place..." " the little things that you do, ur the one that got me inspired...its so good loving somebody and somebody loves you back...now that's a fact".... "Tried to take control of the love, Love took control of me, 'Cause you lose all thoughts, sense of time And have a change of mind " "see this is how you show someone yo...

If I could choose one emotion I would like to conquer....it would be to conquer fear. When you really think about it, fear is what prevents a person from ever having a chance to do what they really want. Fears rears its head in many ways. Fear can keep you from speaking to up when you should because you don't want to be labeled as a trouble maker. Fear can prevent you from truly expressing your personality in social situations because you’re scared of not being accepted for who you truly are, and are afraid that people won’t be interested in what you have to say. What I’ve noticed in my own life is that the best things usually happen when I confront things with a “f*** it” type of attitude. If I was nervous about a big job interview, I would just say fuck it and walk through the door like I already had a corner office waiting for me with my nameplate ready to put on my door. The "f** it" technique can pretty much work in any situation or area of your life. The worst thi...

I love this song...the words are perfect, helps you to get through just about anything....I tell you music is powerful.

Today’s piece focuses on a question consistently asked, but rarely answered in a meaningful way: “Do men know how to love?” I haven’t even started yet, but I can already hear a loud and very passionate chorus of women ready to express their sincere belief that no man is capable of loving someone in a meaningful way. And while I’m not willing to go that far, I will say that there are some men who do struggle with the idea. Today’s column will highlight three factors that contribute to their struggle. Disclaimer: This doesn’t apply to all men. There are pockets of men that remain unaffected by the following variables. Factor # 1 Heartbreak Follows Us. While some women are quick to state their belief that “all men are dogs,” there happens to be a large group of women who cheat just as much as men do (yeah, I said it.) In all honesty, a broken heart often does more damage to a man’s psyche than it does to a woman’s. Now he may never fully admit to the total extent of that damage, but the e...

“Love is built on two pillars that best define what it is. Those are patience and kindness. All other characteristics of love are extensions of these two attributes.” Deep right? At least, that’s what I thought. As I read those words, I exhaled a bit. Why? Well, patience and kindness have always rested at the core of who I am as a human being, and who I strive to be as a woman. So in my mind, it served as an affirmation that I was on the right track. But as soon as I tried to savor that personal epiphany, my mind was instantly flooded with a stream of sobering communal realities… “For every person that practices patience, isn’t there at least 5 who don’t? And what about kindness … doesn’t there seem to be this belief that kindness equates to weakness, and that’s why most people try to avoid it?” Thud. That was the sound of my high crashing back down to a world filled with unhappy, unloved people. So is that what’s wrong with us? Can our inability to experien...

A major problem in the dating world is there aren’t enough people willing to give themselves an honest self-evaluation. This lack of internal honesty starts to create a problem when the advances of deserving people are dismissed with phrases like “I can’t be with them … they aren’t on my level.” Now in some instances, I can agree with such an assertion. For example, if Lester from “227″ starting putting the moves on Halle Berry, then I wouldn’t be mad at her for saying that. (That thick mustache alone should disqualify him.) But in most cases, there is no Halle Berry in the equation. Instead, it’s just people who undeservedly place themselves on a Halle Berry/Reggie Bush-like pedestal where they unfairly look down on others. Case in point, I have an associate who truly believes that she’s a “dime.” She’s even gone so far as to put “certified-dyme” in her email address just to remind everyone of her perceived dime status. On a certain level, I can appreciate her high level of confid...

Life has been busy … but I’m sure you knew that already. In fact, it’s been so busy that I honestly can’t remember the last time I sat down and really put forth maximum effort when it came to writing you. I had been stealing moments here and there to write little notes just to let you know that you weren’t forgotten, but the effort that initially won you over was noticeably absent. So it wasn’t a surprise to me when I viewed my website’s traffic numbers and noticed a steady decline of readers. You were losing interest, and I wasn’t doing anything to stop the bleeding. Instead of communicating what was going on in my personal and professional life, I just assumed that you would always be here—forever faithful..... I was wrong. But doesn’t that behavior sound familiar? In our personal lives, we often work hard to win someone’s heart, only to watch our effort be devalued by incrementally taking them for granted. And it’s never intentional. Life just gets crazy, and we begin to assume t...