The Ups, Downs and in Betweens

Bob Marley Classic “ Wait In Vain ”  broken-down by yours truly… Listen, if you don't feel these lyrics, you don't know music! How many of you are in that “What Next Stage”…this stage is very crucial in a relationship (remember my Weather The Storm post) this kinda falls into this category. Everyone that has every dated has been at this stage of the relationship, the what next or is this the next step...with this person? “Together”…No one wants to wait and then, later on, find out that this isn’t it what you both wanted or the person you waited on did not want either. In short, dating is never ever easy…but if you both are walking the path together, then the waiting won’t be so hard to bear or as Bob said in Vain . Nobody wants to wait around to find out that the potential partner has no intentions of getting with them. It's ok to take your time in dating, just be open, honest and upfront with the person that you are dealing with so that they don’t feel ...

I was speaking to my cousin about relationships today...because let's face it today's relationships are all kinds of Fucked-Up, Fuckery and BULL-CRUD. Everyone is looking for something to make them feel good, great even. They are watching timetables to see what the next steps should be...they are comparing their relationship to the ones on TV/Social Media or their friends. But they are not living in the relationship itself. If you are busy watching the things around you besides your partner how can you develop as a unit? Being in a long lasting relationship means going through some $hit! I also recently asked awesome dude what were his thoughts on what makes a relationship Weather The Storm ...I wanted a guys point of view because heck I am a female and I wanted the perspective of a guy that I can trust and that would give me the truth with no chaser and here are few things he said would make him with stand a long term relationship aka weathering the storm! He ha...

val·i·da·tion ˌ val əˈ dāSH( ə )n/ noun 1.       the action of checking or proving the validity or accuracy of something. "the technique requires validation in controlled trials" o     the action of making or declaring something legally or officially acceptable. "new courses, subject to validation, include an MSc in Urban Forestry" o     recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile. "they have exaggerated needs for acceptance and validation" Above is Websters/Dictionary.com definition(s) of Validation... Very interesting, No?? Each one of these had something that stood out the most to me, and I am sure something will stand out differently for you. The 3 that stood out to me are: Accuracy Officially   Feelings I ask a few people what does Validation mean to them, not using the dictionary's standards and here is what I got: When...

What does it mean to LOVE …Do people even know what it means to be in LOVE Anymore or how to LOVE.  It's so fickle, the minute the "thrill of the Love dies" its on to something exciting and challenging.   Love is a Verb aka Action ! How many times have you heard,  Love is a Verb aka Action ! You really have to put action to make that Love Great (Let's make Love Great Again) it will not just flourish because you are in LOVE , work for it, care for it, nurture it and watch how it flourishes... you know what Love Feels Like, True unconditional Love! This word is used so frequently that it is watered down, no validation behind it. I personally don’t play that Game with the word LOVE ! Because I believe in the power of the word “LOVE”. However, we have several kinds of LOVE! Love for Parent Love for Sibling Love for Children Love for Friend But the LOVE of a significant other is the LOVE we all crave and search for.  At times we can confuse LOV...