The Ups, Downs and in Betweens

Relationships can be a source of great joy, excitement, and love. You may truly enjoy spending time with your partner, and you’re hoping to have a long-lasting and meaningful connection with him or her. When you're considering the type of partner you want in your life, there are plenty of things that may make your list. From their sense of humor to their looks to the way that they treat you, everyone has some sort of picture of who they classify as the ideal mate. But just as there are specific things that we look for the person that we're dating to have, there are things that we hope to never encounter. In our parents’ day, differences in socio-economic identifiers such as religion, race, economic status or education were common deal-breakers. Today behaviors many singles often reject when dating include substance abuse, bigotry, lying, infidelity or a tendency towards violence or abusiveness. Beyond these more obvious deal breakers are a host of things some singl...

When is the last time you had to forgive someone for hurting you or offending you in some way? Did your forgiveness come as a response to their sincerity? Or was it an exasperated response to a person whose "sorries" are plentiful and often meaningless? I've learned a lot about the word "sorry" in my life and how empty it can often be. Looking back at my friendships and relationships it saddens me to think about how many times we have all had the burden of forgiveness that we knew would not be accompanied by action. Complicating this burden is the empty apologies so many of us tend to receive from people who were expected to love unconditionally: parents, close friends, other family members, and partners.  Too many people have the idea that the word sorry is enough, regardless of whether or not remorse is attached. "I said I'm sorry" is supposed to mean something to the person who has been hurt. We're supposed to be willing to forg...

Death is something we all will face one day...it is one of the things we can not avoid no matter what... and along with that comes grief...but to add REGRET mmm  re·gret /rəˈɡret/ verb 1. feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity) The Regret of not saying... The Regret of not doing... The Regret of not being there... Grief is a lengthy process that goes hand in hand with death but regret shouldn't...We all believe that time is something we all have but we are reminded daily it isn't, from the untimely death of Kim Porter which has left Diddy not only grieving but showing regret...regret of not showing his Soul-Mate the LOVE while she could feel it and physically experience it.  Over and Over I say, men will ultimately experience the love of good woman more than one time in his lifetime, while women will probably get a snip of that ...