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Don’t Deny Your Partner


Don’t ever deny your Partner the right to be who God created him/her to be. To do so is cruel and unusual punishment.

Just as you want to be yourself and “do you,” so, too, does your spouse. As long as your spouse’s actions aren’t sinful, back off give him/her some space.
After all, before too long, you, too, will be wanting that same space to be who you are. This statement is so true for me, for those of you who know me personally...knows that I am the biggest cheerleader for my partner. Just imagine if Michelle had stop Barack from running for the presidency, Jada for not supporting Will and all his box office movies (Wild Wild West doesn't count), Coretta for not allowing Martin to have a Dream or Marching.


Believe in your Partner.
This is harder than it sounds. As you got to know your spouse, you began to see something inside him or her that set him apart from all others. It’s one of the reasons you fell in love and decided to get married. That special something – that spark and charm – should be enough reasons to believe that your spouse can fulfill career goals just as he or she has accomplished personal goals (like marrying you). Tell your spouse you believe in him or her but also prove it. Keep track of his or her career and applaud at the appropriate moments. When things are not going so well, you can provide encouragement for your spouse by offering a pep talk – “You are great at what you do and things will get better because you’re great at what you do and I love you no matter what happens.” You can also help your spouse get his or her mind off work on days off by doing something fun together

Be there for your Partner when it counts.
When your spouse asks you to attend work functions (parties, award ceremonies, speeches, or retreats), you must go. Not only must you attend, but you also must be dressed appropriately, wear a smile no matter how boring the event, and make polite small talk with your spouse’s colleagues. Your job is to make a good impression because you are, after all, a reflection of your spouse.

Make sacrifices
Most Americans today are expected to be on call 24-seven for their jobs. There is a lot of pressure to arrive at work before the boss and leave after him. If your spouse has to work late or take meetings during breakfast or dinner or travel a lot, you have to tolerate it. That said, you do not have to let anyone walk all over you, and your spouse does have to respect your feelings. He or she must also find time for you and your relationship. Still, especially if the crazy hours or traveling is a temporary stepping stone to bigger and better positions, you should do your best to accept the situation. Sacrifice time with your spouse now for a better future later. If that’s your situation, then you should do everything you can to make the time you are together counting. Keep in mind that people who are satisfied with their careers and feel accomplished are generally happier – and therefore make for better companions.

Be the support system that you suppose needs, help them reach their full potential.
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  1. NattyJanuary 19, 2012 at 4:54 PM

    Great Post! I'm not married but I agree, if ones spouse is following their dream it's important to support it as long as it's within reason...why not? It might be a fun & exciting adventure that you both can reminisce about when you're both old and still in love!

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  2. TraeJanuary 19, 2012 at 5:09 PM

    thanks, this was written from the heart...I mean all my posts are..but this one brought me back to blogging.

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  3. UnknownFebruary 16, 2017 at 7:46 PM

    Figure u would do this one

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    1. TraeFebruary 17, 2017 at 3:59 AM

      It's speaks on the nature of the kind of woman I am and aspire to be... just like my mommy and the women who helped raised me.

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