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Nobody Puts Baby In The Corner....

The title of this entry is from my all time favorite movie Dirty Dancing. I can relate to the main character "Baby" she is usual overlooked by her family/friends but is the one that saves or figure things out. The one they can lean on or reach out to "Get Shit Done"!

Here's the kicker with Patient/Understanding people, we have FEELINGS! but we are just more patient than others. But we have the mindset that Patience is a Virtue... but what does that mean? It's a great thing to have patience but eventually, that patient person gets taken for granted.

People tend to overlook a person that they know will be "ok" (I put it in quotes, because everyone is ok in the end, but that doesn't mean they are not hurt or hurting by actions) but because people know you are patient and understanding they tend to overlook the things they would not dare do to someone else that would "WILD-OUT" if they would do that to that person. Patient people are the most sensitive but they haven't mastered the way to speak up for themselves without looking or feeling vulnerable. It's a hard balance and a patient person admission would mean they are NOT able to achieve something, so complex but really easy!

 I am one of the most patient and reliable person, this isn't self-asset but words that have been used to describe me. Now while I am all these and I embrace them because they are me!, I still have feelings and wants, that I will easily put to the side because I'm Tracy! (The biggest cheerleader on your team)I can't say one person can honestly say that they asked me to do something and I have not gone above and beyond (mediocre never that). BUT While I'm putting out these efforts I barely get them back in return. But being a patient/understanding person we tend to push through... let it slide, because duh we understand! We understand that shit and life occurs, but while it's happening to you and the patient/understanding person is there for you...ever stop to ponder after you have made it out that situation how you could repay that patient/understanding person in your corner? News flash it's not adding more to their plate...read and understand them, do something for once for them so they don't feel taken for granted or feel that you understand and appreciate them. 
As I am getting older, I realize that most won't get to understand that even though I'm patient/understanding I'm still human and want, need the same as you do! If you have a patient/understanding person in ur life...please I urge you to take the time and acknowledge them, they aren't asking for much but don't take them for granted!

I think that's why Baby was able to gravity to Johnny in the movie because he realized these things in her and valued them. If you have a Baby in your life, don't have them sit in the corner!
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