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Waiting in Vain


Bob Marley Classic “Wait In Vain”  broken-down by yours truly…


Listen, if you don't feel these lyrics, you don't know music!


How many of you are in that “What Next Stage”…this stage is very crucial in a relationship (remember my Weather The Storm post) this kinda falls into this category.

Everyone that has every dated has been at this stage of the relationship, the what next or is this the next step...with this person? “Together”…No one wants to wait and then, later on, find out that this isn’t it what you both wanted or the person you waited on did not want either.

In short, dating is never ever easy…but if you both are walking the path together, then the waiting won’t be so hard to bear or as Bob said in Vain. Nobody wants to wait around to find out that the potential partner has no intentions of getting with them. It's ok to take your time in dating, just be open, honest and upfront with the person that you are dealing with so that they don’t feel that the time they invested was in Vain! Like Bob bellows: 

 Don't talk to me as if you think I'm dumb;
I wanna know when you're gonna come - soon
What are your thoughts? Have you ever waited in Vain? or Have you ever had someone waited in Vain?  If you waited in Vain, why did you? Did you feel or say anything that made you waited? If you had someone waiting in Vain, Why did you do that?
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