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LONG GONE


I have seen this video a few times...after a recent conversation a great friend of mines, she then sent it to me and I watched. Shook my head a few times like mmmm ain't this the truth.


If you have to wonder if you have a place in a person's life, then that can't be right, that is the 1sr RedFlag!...I mean even in this dating world/relationship world, we all are gonna second, third...heck fifth guess things but you get that reassurance that you are NOT tripping, by the way, the person you are dating MOVES...

People get busy, but nobody is busy all the time. At this stage in life, we all have responsibilities that will take us away from the person your dating...but if you can't remember the last time you both had quality time together, then that is a problem and if when you ask or suggest something you get an excuse and not a solution then you have more problems.

Bonding together is really simple and easy to do, cook together, exercise, read a book, do a puzzle, play a game or watch a TV show together (Netflix, Hulu, etc)...I mean building and growing together is a major part of any relationship. Like how will I know if you don' like ketchup on your fries, that you don't like ice in your drink or would you know that I like cheese doodles with ice cream (Don't knock it until you try it)... but you won't know until we do Bonding ish together...shit we can even do laundry, I wash and you fold or whatever...

This is Nothing New that I haven't spoken about on this here blog or probably said before...if someone your supposedly dating isn't speaking about you in long-term terminology then baby its time to be LONG GONE! Let that person GO, don't try and figure it out...don't look for clues or sugar coat the shit. As the saying goes, speak it into existence and you are not part of their long-term.

Relationships cannot... let me say that again...a relationship CANNOT or WILL NOT grow if you are not bonding, meaning doing things together... spending time together and sex does NOT count as time together either, that is not building just boning.

So when that person gives you another excuse...remember its time to be LONG GONE

Because let's be clear the person already has...
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  1. BuggsyFebruary 20, 2018 at 11:09 AM

    It’s a proven FACT people will make time for what they value important in their life

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    1. TraeFebruary 20, 2018 at 11:15 AM

      and they will make and give excuses to justify or attempt to justify why they cant

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