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Loyalty vs. Integrity


When people describe what they are looking for friend or partner, one of the first things on the list is "Loyalty"
We have people with the word even tatted on their bodies...

 Very rarely do people mention "Integrity"

Both seem to be pretty straightforward, both seem like what you look for in a friend or lover right...well let me break it down too you the way I see it.

In this day an age, I don't want a Loyal friend, give me a person with Integrity any day...
people be loyal to friends and family even though they know the person is D. E. A. D. wrong all on the strength of that's FAM.

I would rather a person with Integrity because that person would have a mindset to say "Nah Fam" and let you know what is right. Right is Right and Wrong is Wrong, it shouldn't change because of your Loyalty to a person.

Just check out the definition of both... and understand where I am coming from!


loy·al·ty
ˈloiəltē/
noun
  1. the quality of being loyal to someone or something.

    "her loyalty to her husband of 34 years"
    • a strong feeling of support or allegiance.


 (see that word allegiance, ppl will create a whole Super Group based on loyalty)


in·teg·ri·ty
inˈteɡrədē/
noun
  1. 1.
    the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.
  2. 2.
    the state of being whole and undivided.


  • Loyalty is something you give to a person or cause, to the detriment of all else (ideology).
  • Integrity is something you have within yourself, to the benefit of everyone.
  • Loyalty keeps people apart or brings wrong people together. Joins people who have nothing else in common
  • Integrity brings good people together. Joins people who are working for a common, good cause
  • Loyalty does not provide for admonition and correction.
  • Integrity provides for and encourages admonition and correction.


Sometimes this is a really hard choice but keep in mind that integrity must be present before you have any true loyalty. Loyalty cannot be part of a person’s morals if he has no real integrity. This being said always stick to your integrity first. Do the right thing and you will remain solid in your actions. With integrity intact, you can be truly loyal and attract people like moths to a flame. You may lose some acquaintances but never any real friends. In the long run, you will gain a base of solid, loyal people around you. When I think about it, my most loyal friends are trustworthy and consistent. Their integrity is what makes them loyal. Now go out and do the right thing.


Yes, to thine own self-be true.  Have integrity. Be loyal to yourself.

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