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The Scene #HurtBae video has some of the most heartfelt moments in relationships, some have dealt with and or know someone who has. The video is six minutes and 44 seconds of emotional horror that sums up a relationship that is based on lies, cheating, and deceptions all in the name of LOVE. 

Kourtney asks the dreadful question, "WHAT DID YOU DO?" (I was like dam Kourt, don't ask him that Baby-Girl, you not ready for that answer) and Leonard replies "I DID EVERYTHING !"(I mean dang Playboy you didn't even ease into your response to her at all, just let it rip and you can see when heart broke again, not saying that he should lie but dang Play-Boy, be a tad bit ease with someone you call your best friend, how he treat his enemies then?)

  Kourtney has done in her mind what is best to maintain her relationship, by being a detective, playing iSpy work, to find out whatever she need on her Bae to keep him or be aware of his feelings for her (I don't think he has feelings for her). OH Leonard, UGH Leonard drops that loaded and dreadful question, that I am sure Kourtney has asked herself ... WHY STAY?!

That's a great question some will say,  but horrible approach. I do wonder why people stay in a relationship like theirs...is the heartache, moist palms, sleepless nights and stomach pains worth it? losing sleep to snoop?? losing precious time to zoom in the background of IG pictures for what? See his tag pictures again for what! If he's going to cheat, guess what he's going too..he will, and if you are just going to snoop and not leave, you have already lowered yourself and this so called relationship is DOOMED. He will only continue and your spy-game will only get better unless you plan on becoming of the CIA or a Secret Agent (this is a great way to get hands-on training) but in all reality, you don't plan on doing any of those!! So just stop! for your sanity, the sanity of your friends. We don't want to hear about your no ends of creeping to find out dirt and then when you don't find anything...what then?! 9 out of 10 times, you will find dirt...sadly! But you're staying!!

You can see that she is not over him, that she put her all into this relationship and parts of her held back her angry and hurt, in hopes of what we females tend to do...recollection or closure.  I wanted (so badly) for her to say "Why didn't you LEAVE?" If you knew you didn't want to be with me exclusively, why cheat? Just leave me alone and stop wasting MY time... and we know the answer to that don't we !! because he knew she was a great catch...stringing her along until he figured out what he wanted to do...or who he wanted to be with. This is the back and forth that happens in far too many situationships/relationships. At what point does someone say, ENOUGH...lets just stop while we can remain amicable to each other because once someone is hurt beyond repair, that toxicity can never ever be in the same room, let alone to say Hi! 

I recently came to the conclusion, that Love is a choice that one makes..its total ok if it doesn't workout! Jobs don't workout and that's your paycheck aka your lively hood and you survive that $h!t. I am not saying not to Love, but Love and Love Deep and Hard with every fiber of your being...but if the signs are there and if it's not working...Let It GO! 

That's the one thing the video doesn't show or answer...what was the final act that had them break-up? But one thing is for sure it's time to End The Hurt Bae Syndrome!
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  1. UnknownFebruary 16, 2017 at 1:27 PM

    Very deep

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  2. UnknownFebruary 16, 2017 at 5:37 PM

    That's the worst question to ask because no matter how tough you are you never want to hear the answer. I been ask that question before and it's the hardest to answer

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 16, 2017 at 6:30 PM

    Men always find a way to blame the women. If he wanted to cheat and be with other women, then why didn't he just leave? Selfish

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    1. TraeFebruary 16, 2017 at 7:08 PM

      Because he wants to have the good catch and play the game.

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  4. Clara EllisonFebruary 25, 2017 at 2:57 AM

    OMG. Y am I just seeing this video. That carrot top loser sat there with no remorse. Not ONE. Clearly she loves you as an individual, declared you as her best friend and told you how u having all these different women hurt her and still NO EMOTIONS. What a selfish, self absorbed LIL 🍆 .

    He don't deserve no tears. Not ONE. And she needs to go get tested because he is a walking GERM. 😷😷😷

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