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Wont You Be My Valentine

I grew up in a house build on Love…My dad romances my mother in ways you only see on TV, but on Valentines Day... my dad goes the extra mile (keep in mind my mother's Birthday is 2 days after Valentine's day). Somehow this seems to be far from the norm for myself and some of my female friends and the wackiness we have dated. Growing up I always had a disdain for Valentines Day…which is odd, because I am the biggest believer in Romance and Love you will every find in our day and age. I think my disdain for the day was because I never truly had a Valentine before. I had a boyfriend or was dating someone on or around  Valentine's day but that wow factor (except for Last Year...but back to why I am iffy on this here Valentines Day...Day). 

I still remember this guy, I was dating, I mean we would meet in the library and do homework; well I did homework he just goofed off…anyways back to my story, I was holding my friends balloons she got for her mother and dude saw me with the balloons and he went on an all out rage and cursed me (I have never been so embarrassed ...I later got my brother to handle that, a little yoking and choking never hurt anyone). But again this brought on more disgust for this holiday, this young man didn’t get me a gift but once he says me with one decided at that very moment to Bash ME… but really he should be checking himself as to why he didn’t get me a gift. Which I never understood why guys are so Against Valentines Day...why, what did the heart, candies and cute teddy bears do to you that have you all Scroogish on this day?.

Somehow this day of affection has gotten twisted,  you got the guys who say ish like “Valentines Day is Everyday” but umm you ain't showing that Play-Boy... so what are you saying? Did you buy me chocolate and huge ass bear last week? No, you didn't!!  How about the ones that go “It’s a Commercial Holiday To Get You To Buy”…ok so why you not buying?? We celebrate your birthday no?? Rock out for NBA Playoffs and other sports NO?? Then  Gimme Me My Dam Gift!
I had this one guy that I was with for many YEARS, that would get me Red Roses, I detest anything Red and getting me Red Roses just prove you don't know me.  I understand its the thought that counts, back to what I said a few sentences back, not every day is Valentine's day...make it special. Now, don't think I don't give gifts, I am not all talk...I pay attention and will give a gift that holds sentimental value to you.

It gets tricky because We want to Display Love instead of actually Being In Love, focus on the person you are with/dating learn what they heart is speaking or wanting, do not worry about what the world is saying...Learn your partner. I have seen some gestures that would make you go well dam that is something straight outta of a movie script. My generation has to do better; the romance is dying or dead amongst us. It’s lost, dudes don’t want to Romance and women don’t want to show Vulnerability. Nobody wants to get “Played” but they are indeed playing a game of trying not to get “Played”.

Honestly, to me, Valentines Day is a day that you should just show that extra appreciation for your significant other. I feel that woman should get the man in their life a gift as well and I have voiced this to my female friends and SEX is not a gift…you have to be able to create ROMANCE together…its not a one-way street. Communication is awesome but once the Love & Romance dies, you can’t talk your way back...Talk is Cheap, you have to Show Them!
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  1. Clara EllisonFebruary 14, 2017 at 6:53 PM

    Date your spouse. I do believe that the majority of the people forget that this is the most important aspect of being with an individual.

    What is the person favorite color? Favorite food? Favorite song?

    study the real people in your life, like you study the fake people who are not.....

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  2. TraeFebruary 15, 2017 at 12:18 PM

    I agree with dating your spouse...and it doesn't have to be anything fancy dancy either, watch a movie together, play some games. That quality time together tuning out the craziness of the world.

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