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The Day After...

It’s the day after Valentine's day…the Day that is set aside for Love and Affirmation.

Today many are left wondering what can I do better to find this Love that I am seeking, Why does it seem to escape me?? We doubt ourselves, our worth and wonder why its not happening for me. We have plenty of ifs and buts… Love is one of the most beautiful things on this planet but it’s also one of the most dangerous things…People Kill, Lie and Scheme for Love and in our day and age create fake profile pages to stalk you and your new lover on social media.

I have heard of Santeria, Voodoo and Obeah rituals to Keep Love, very scary if you ask me and rather intriguing (there are books written on this just Google it) I’m not gonna lie... I asked a bunch of questions when this topic recently came up because I am intrigued by Love (you should realize this by reading my blog) and the reasons why people choose who they want to Love.

Because Love is a choice, is it not? Do you not choose who you Love, but the issue is will they Choose you back? But that shouldn’t stop you from Being the Love and Showing Love you want, now I am not saying for you to be a fool for Love (that's another blog and some areas I bold up top) You know if its worth it, I repeat you know if it's Worth it!

We all want Love and Happiness (notice I didn’t say marriage and that’s because I know far too many people who are married but are NOT happy). Marriage does not equate Love anymore, it should be one big package. I rather have Love and Happiness than a Fake Marriage any day.

One thing is true is that you choose to deal with what we deal with in pursuit of Love.

  • I have encountered people who deal with someone because they feel that is the Love they deserve (self-esteem situations and issues).
  • Some who Love for the sake of Money or Notoriety!
  • Some who are in a relationship to see if this will work, I get that but when do you figure out it's not working and let it go? Do you get so comfortable with each other, not one ounce of Love left, just comfortable to say they have someone? 

I have seen and experience Love in many forms, but I am still a believer of Love and the Joys it brings. To Love and Be Loved back is one of the BEST Things you can ever have or had.

We all are seeking Love…but be the Love you are Seeking.
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  1. UnknownFebruary 15, 2017 at 8:58 AM

    I love this. Gives me a clear understanding of how love works. It really is best to take your time and love the right way. Great blog...

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    1. TraeFebruary 15, 2017 at 12:14 PM

      Only way too...we get caught up on getting instant gratification that we don't remember to enjoy falling in love.

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  2. UnknownFebruary 15, 2017 at 9:26 AM

    The word love is losing value in this era. Everything is becoming more lustationship. Don't believe me just take a look at the love music of this era. I still believe in love like you do, but it's harder to find

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    1. TraeFebruary 15, 2017 at 12:14 PM

      I think people make it harder to find because they are too busy watching others...enjoy the person you are with and Love each other.

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  3. BuggsyFebruary 15, 2017 at 9:33 AM

    Good stuff

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  4. AnonymousFebruary 16, 2017 at 9:47 AM

    Great topic. Love is intricate, complicating, fascinating, and at times frightening.

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    1. TraeOctober 12, 2017 at 7:42 AM

      But when done by two people on the same page... so amazing

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