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Fear

If I could choose one emotion I would like to conquer....it would be to conquer fear. When you really think about it, fear is what prevents a person from ever having a chance to do what they really want.

Fears rears its head in many ways. Fear can keep you from speaking to up when you should because you don't want to be labeled as a trouble maker. Fear can prevent you from truly expressing your personality in social situations because you’re scared of not being accepted for who you truly are, and are afraid that people won’t be interested in what you have to say.

What I’ve noticed in my own life is that the best things usually happen when I confront things with a “f*** it” type of attitude. If I was nervous about a big job interview, I would just say fuck it and walk through the door like I already had a corner office waiting for me with my nameplate ready to put on my door. The "f** it" technique can pretty much work in any situation or area of your life.

The worst thing that can happen to you in most situations in life you’re afraid of is rejection. This fear causes you to actually give up before you even try, and the crazy thing about that is that you’re rejecting yourself before you let anyone else. So the very thing you’re afraid of, you’re actually doing to yourself. If that’s the case, then fearing rejection is obviously a waste of your damn time. If you’re scared to talk to that woman and you don’t, you’re still going home alone. If you’re afraid to screw up that job interview, you’ll probably walk in sweating like a fry cook, nervous as hell, and you won’t get the job anyway. Fear is a losing man’s game and you don’t want to be in the starting lineup.

Here is a short list of fears that I’ve noticed in my lifetime that have held me back from reaching my true potential:

  • Fear of Love
  • Fear of Rejection
  • Fear of the Truth
  • Fear of Pain
  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of the Unknown
We all weren’t born fearless super heroes, ready to pimp slap the world and attain victory at every stage of life. Real men/women are the ones who admit to and confront their fears. The losers are the ones who stand there in denial as their potential for improvement and a chance at greatness passes them by. Figure out if you have any fears that are blocking your path to success and tackle them.

The world is yours like Pete Rock and Nas in '94.




Nasty Nas- The World Is Yours
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