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3 Ways To Get Over Someone...............

Let me get straight to the point. Breaking up sucks—especially when you can’t get the other person out of your system. To add insult to injury, your ex isn’t giving you a second thought while you’re up having sleepless nights.

It doesn’t always have to be this way though, and the following Three Ways To Get Over Someone can help..... By the time I’m done with you, your ex will be about as forgettable as the second Lionel from “The Jeffersons.”

1. Occupy Your Time.

The worst thing you can do when getting over someone is nothing, as an idle mind can be your worst enemy. So get up off the couch and participate in activities that will take your mind off the breakup. I don’t care what it is: hang out with friends; go to the gym; It really doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it frees your mind of the past.

2. Make A List And Check It Twice.

When I find myself struggling in the aftermath of a break up, I make a list detailing every reason I shouldn’t be with that person—and I mean everything. From them cheating on me to the strange way that he chews his food, I painstakingly document every aspect of our relationship that I hated. Whenever I start thinking about “what if,” I simply whip out my list to get my mind right. Trust me; it works.

3. Erase The Memories.

Let me ask you this: why do you still have your ex programmed as speed dial number 2 in your phone? Or better yet, why are they still listed as your emergency contact at work? These little reminders increase the difficulty of healing and moving on. Your best bet is to treat your ex like Beyonce did Kelly and Michelle after the last Destiny’s Child concert. Lose the number.

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