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Homewrecker or Victim

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1207711/Why-I-steal-womens-husbands--A-shockingly-unrepentant-woman-explains-herself.html#comments

I read the above article this week and it got over 300 comments most of them slating her. On one hand she actively pursued married men on the other she quite clearly suffers from low self esteem as a result of not getting attention from her parents and being bullied by other girls.

Throughout my life I have had disdain towards women who will start relationships with men knowing that they are married. just cannot fathom why as a woman a man who is attached would seem more attractive to you. If anything it should put you off him immediately but according to a study done it actually makes a man 4 times more attractive to a woman?? WHY?
They stated that it was down to the woman "pre-screening" his qualities and that the man has demonstrated his ability to commit. I think that logic is flawed as everyone is different so therefore that would conclude that relationship dynamics will be different depending on the two people are....

Part of the woman's reasoning in the article was that she felt safe with married men and that they represented security. I was baffled by this as I didn't understand how someone that can be so calculating and deceitful be a safe option. Surely you wouldn't be able to trust them as far as you can throw them because if they can lie to their wife and children then they will and can lie to you. Plus she also said she felt a sense of achievement when the married man fell for her....I think this was her main driving force in "snaring" married men. It didn't just happen once but four times, so this was no coincidence or that she couldn't help who she fell in love with. It was just a dose of competition she felt she was validated as a woman once she had managed to steal another womans husband away from her. I think due to the fact her first serious relationship the man was already in a relationship with someone else but she didn't find out until he got married. She felt the main woman had stolen him from her, I think this is another reason for her behaviour and she was hell-bent on seeking revenge on other women and would too "steal" their men from them. Why do men never seem to do this if they have been cheated on?

I also think that this is why this particular study has shown that women are more likely to be attracted to a man that is attached. In my opinion it is just down to female competitiveness/bitchiness, some women like the feeling of being the "victor" it makes them feel like they are the winner in some sort of sick twisted way once they have managed to get the man who is already in a relationship particularly if the woman is much more attractive then her. I think if you get someone by these means then you will never trust the partner because you are aware of how you got together.

I am not in any way saying these men were innocent victims and that they didn't have a choice, they did. They were the ones who took their vows and should have stuck to them. However I think this woman knew exactly what she was doing and molded herself into whatever they wanted her to be or as she said whatever their wives weren't. She deliberately set out to start up affairs with married men and that is what annoys me.

I just don't get how as a woman you could willingly put yourself in second place and show that you are just a sexual object. Does this not send out a message loud and clear that you have no self respect and will put up with someone else's crumbs? Why would you allow yourself to be used for sex and let this man go back to his cosy life with his wife and children whilst you are left their on your own? In most cases these men NEVER leave their wives and these professional mistresses pretend to themselves that they don't want a full-time relationship. When the reality is is that they are so scared of rejection and have such a low self esteem that they will accept this situation. They know he will never be able to hurt them or leave them because if something isn't really yours then it cant leave you.

Ironically in the end the woman in the article is getting married to a man she had an affair with. But they only ended up together properly after him and the wife had a massive argument so he decided to go and live with her. Presumably if they didn't she would have been quite happy to be his second family for years to come. Most of the comments say that she will have karma coming her way big-time and have even given anecdotes of where this has happened. I too believe in karma and she will get to feel the pain she has inflicted on people. If not through the uneasiness when her husband to be starts to tell her is working late.
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