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My Lady Friends

I want something for my lady friends........ I really do. I HATE the men that mess with their emotions and make false promises. But even worse is my infuriation (my spell check says this isn't a word, but it is today. HA!) with them when they make excuses for these men. Don't they know their worth? Don't they see how beautiful they are and how they don't have to act all desperate and weak for undeserving men?

Good thing I don't have to deal with too much of that anymore....... The older I get, the less female friends I have with issues like that. Call me picky, but I can only be surrounded by strong women. I don't care how much fun you may be....if your ass is weak, it ain't 'gon work out.

Dear God, please let my lady friends know that you have their backs. They are working hard in their professions while maintaining composure and sanity. They are fighting back tears and making ways EVERY DAY. My girls are strong women......And deserving women.

And yeah...they don't need no men. They can be fine without them......But they deserve a good MAN.... They deserve to be treated like the Queens that they are. They deserve to have their dreams shared with someone who truly understands and loves them.

Without care. And genuinely.

Don't worry 'bout me, God. Just look out for my girl

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