The most dangerous man in a woman’s life is her ex..... Why? Because she trusts him. Despite all of the shit he may have put her through….there is a vulnerable place in her heart that she always lets him in. And she never means to. In fact, she usually feels bad after the fact. But she thinks she’s safe because she knows him and he knows her. But really he is taking advantage of her. Rides on some wave of thinking that she may actually start to develop feelings for him again.
But she isn't.......She is only looking for temporary comfort. A familiar comfort. She says things she doesn’t mean. She makes implications. She thinks she loves him but she knows she doesn’t. She needs to be careful. She need not let her heart get too involved again. She need not backtrack or press rewind. For an ex is an ex for a reason.
We talk a lot about “not settling” in modern dating how we shouldn’t accept the bare minimum, how we deserve effort, consistency, and someone choosing us every day. But somewhere along the way, “not settling” started getting confused with “never compromising,” and those two things are not the same. Compromise is collaboration. Settling is self-betrayal. And nothing captures that difference more clearly than the quiet, intimate act of being remembered. The Effort I Mistook for Compatibility For a long time, I was the one who remembered. I'm the woman who'll clock your favorite snack in passing and pick it up "just because." The one who remembers your big meeting, your bad knee, the story about your childhood bedroom. I remember the song you skip every time, the way you side-eye certain foods, the exact way you take your coffee. That's how I love people—through details. And for a long time, I mistook my own effort for "compatibility." I’ve been in situat...
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